My name is Shelley and this is a website I created for reasons that few could understand. I'm sharing my experience of abuse, its a safety measure. Unless you've experienced these sort of abuses it'd be hard to understand.
If you've come here from Shelleyleach.com you'll have a better understanding of evolvement of my internet presence. Its funny because I still feel very silenced.
Tundra is a service dog, who assists me with my disabilities?
Here is Tundra today. She does have a service dog vest which she wears when in public, like in the shopping mall.
Which is sort of what this is, but the shoppers here are a bit different they only take. In a real shopping mall that would be theft or some sort of exploitation of a vulnerable person. Not so funny, because, this is my real life.
The quotes below are funny, if you've ever seen the video.
“They stared at each other, wanting each other, drawn to each other,
but their silent shout of love went unheard in the roar of misunderstanding,
and the clatter of culturally ingrained beliefs.”
“The difference in the brains of men and women was imposed by nature, and only cemented by culture.”
― Jean M. Auel, Clan of the cave bearThe Clan of the Cave e Mammoth Hunters
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do." Mark Twain
"A quote that will make you feel smarter immediately"
"It says something about the continued culture of public silence around this topic that I’m writing this now with a queasy knot of apprehension in my stomach, but every woman I know has a story of bias or harassment or assault in the workplace or in the larger “art world.”"SHAUNA THOMPSON, CURATOR, ESKER FOUNDATION
What is sexual harassment?
Uninvited, unwelcome verbal or physical behavior of a sexual nature, especially by a person in authority toward a subordinate. The term was coined and popularized by Lin Farley at Cornell University in 1975.
What is sexual assault?
Illegal sexual contact that usually involves force upon a person or is inflicted upon a person who is incapable of giving consent.
I thought Id take some time and dedicate some of this site to sharing some information pertaining to sexual harassment. There are lots of resources that cover sexual assault fewer for sexual harassment. I guess we all have to make a choice will my voice and decisions make a difference. I hope it makes a positive difference. Here's a quote I read someplace, no idea who wrote it but I liked it, " while your pretending to be somebody else, don't forget who you really are." Freedom of expression is protected as a "fundamental freedom" by Section 2 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Sometimes depending on the subject people are not going to like what you have to say.
To start sexual harassment constitutes an infringement of a person’s right to equality.
It is prohibited by section 15 of the Canadian Charter of rights and freedoms and by all provincial Human Rights codes to find sections that apply to you, look up your provincial Human Rights Code.
If you find something useful in here because you have been sexual harassed or victimized this site has served it's purpose. Its also about something know one ever said to me, its not your fault, your not the only one and your not alone. So for anyone else who has had similar experiences. Its not your fault, however, I can say, you might be alone, but your not the only one.
Its seems natural to think you are not at fault if you are harassed , it seems natural to think if you're sexually assaulted you're not at fault, but it appears the system, a system made of people can't think of the simplest statement that lifts the weight off ones shoulders. " its not your fault". You can know its not your fault but its important to hear. Its not your fault.
From what I have been able to find from a legal perspective there are two main types of sexual harassment "quid pro quo" and “hostile climate”. Even though victims do not have to describe there experiences on the basis of these types. I think if you have been subjected to these types of sexual harassment its best to make yourself knowledgeable, these two types are dependent on the consequences for the victim.
Some types of sexual harassment can be a crime under the Criminal Code.
Sexual assault is an extreme form of sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is a form of discrimination.Sexual harassment is a reprehensible form of behaviour that infringes on the victim’s right to equality and dignity...this I know for fact.
Its not just the RCMP: Police Culture it Toxic, " I have spoken with officers across all levels of policing, and with few exceptions, the stories of their workplace culture have been similar, albeit varying in extremes. I have heard first- and second-hand accounts of off-duty rape and various levels of workplace sexual assault/harassment by peers or supervisors. I have heard of evidence tampering, coercion of witnesses, and intimidation tactics used during internal investigations of workplace violence, harassment, and discrimination. I have heard of verbal, physical, and psychological bullying, racism, homophobia, and sexism – all within the workplace. Operationally, many officers report corruption in internal investigations"
..... 9 years ago I never would have believe this to be true, today, I know it is.
They treat each other like this, how do they treat the people they swore to serve and protect.
What I lost is intangible, what they gained is another person instilled with a life time of mistrust and loss of confidence.
" Not sorry for what they did, only sorry they got caught " is relevant.
Its nice to think someone could be so confident in themselves this would never happen to them, I hope it doesn't. Why does it make it worse when it was a police officer or representative of a police service, because when someone is hurting you or you are in trouble and you think its criminal or life threatening you call the police, in this situation not only did they not help, they perpetuated it. Next time if somebody is hurting you or someone else are you going to call, who do you become more upset by, the person you called the police about or who didn't help when you called for help. The bystander who did nothing who is now the secondary abuser. Theoretically its typical abuse. It doesn't matter what you know, its what you do about it and how you do it. Understanding proportionately the well behaved adults who treat people with courtesy and respect out weigh the narcissistic abusers.
No, it will ever happen to me, its always someone else, until its you. Its not my problem, its every bodies problem. From my experience, portions of the interviews below are only a small sample of what's above. I'm sure some police officers have read this, for you, how many of your work colleagues aren't with you anymore becasue they had similar experience. I was injured to the point I now have permanent disabilities and I never left Ontario or Quebec and never saw anything worth putting on canvas. If I were ever to write a non fiction recollection of the last few years I'd call it the "Not so blind eye" This is a good preface to that book. I heard something that applies to a lot of situations but especially these types of incidence. " we are trying to fix the effect, and not the cause." I guess you could say this website is a sample of the effect, not the cause.
Here is something else interesting; The Canadian Victims Bill of Rights was Enacted on July 23rd, 2015, the Act creates clear Rights for Victims of crime, and requires said Act to be considered during each step of the criminal justice system. 10. "Every victim has the right to have reasonable and necessary measures taken by the appropriate authorities in the criminal justice system to protect the victim from intimidation and retaliation."...11." Every victim has the right to have their privacy considered by the appropriate authorities in the criminal justice system."
" In fact, sexual assault is the only violent crime in Canada that is not declining. Its impact goes far beyond survivors; dealing with the aftermath of sexual assault costs Canadians billions of dollars every year. "...the vast majority of sexual assault isn’t reported to police" and I don't have to guess why. if I hadn't been harassed by a police officer would you still be visiting this website, and is this website more interesting than my artwork. It could be to you, however, I prefer my artwork.
1.Learn about what abuse is... steps to justice.
ASSAULTED WOMEN'S HOTLINE 1 -866 -863 -0511
Talk4healing - The confidential help line staffed by Indigenous women can be reached at 1-855-554-4325
For the people who do support me, it doesn't go unnoticed, and I am very thankful for those who do.
This report here has most certainly been over used, passed along, distributed... and its wasn't by me, and is of one of those pieces that fits into the puzzle
Victims’ Bill of Rights, 1995
S.O. 1995, CHAPTER 6
5. Victims of sexual assault should, if the victim so requests, be interviewed during the investigation of the crime only by police officers and officials of the same gender as the victim.
(2) The following victims shall be presumed to have suffered emotional distress:
2. A victim of a sexual assault.
3. A victim of an attempted sexual assault. 1995, c. 6, s. 3 (2); 1999, c. 6, s. 65 (3); 2005, c. 5, s. 72 (3).
One thing that should be really clear, a human rights claim is not a criminal investigation its about code grounds of discrimination.
June 13, 2018
Why would he take that letter? I guess you'd have to know what it said, even then why steal it? so he didn't have to log it as evidence, no idea, was he going to go sell my confidential information to some criminal, why, I have no idea, only he can answer that, and even then who really cares what his answer is, how many times did it happen before, once was too many. To make this clear this is a OPP police officer during a police interview stealing my paperwork and touching my property without consent. What did he think he was doing, your guess is as good as mine. The degrading treatment I was subjected to during this interview far outweighs anything I could ever comprehend. Long before these reports I knew what violence against women was, the bigger problem is these videos and recordings personify what subtle abuse and violence against women is.
Its a breach of trust at the minimum, I'm sure it goes far beyond that. An additional factor influencing the experiences of women with disabilities is the way their voices are devalued and desexualized (Curry et al., 2009; Odette, 2012; Plummer & Findley, 2012).
To really steal someones property during a on camera interview, are these the investigators you want in your home after someone broke in? Good question. This is a real police interview when I was making a report about serious allegations. You can't hide this stuff and ignorance to it would be as bad as what happened. I see this as a remedial step to the prevention similar occurrences and misinformation.
What would make my information more valuable than the average person, is it I am special, no that's not it, I'm not unlike most people. Have I been so successful in my art career I have some value I'm not aware of, is it I'm some ravaging beauty, no that's not either but Mr. Hudson I have a idea of why and I'll give you a hint. Other than I'm vulnerable to exploitation. Very nice mural by the way.
This is only one OPP Detective who has destroyed any ability I will ever have to trust any police service, he disgustingly tarnished the OPP reputation and the police officers who actually care. It would go against my moral values not to call them out as I have to wonder in all the years of policing how many innocent lives have been destroyed. When change comes to late. Its too late. Although I have the whole video I have only to this point published segments. Not forgetting the photos he took with his phone of text messages on my phone after he intimidated me.
This is why I have a Human Rights claim against the newly named Ontario Ministry of the Solicitor General for sexual harassment. ( they are the employer of the OPP and we the tax payers pay there salary.) Police Officers have a position of authority and we have no choice but to place trust. Abusing a position of Trust. I truthfully can't articulate the disgust "The key element here is the need to perform masculinity".
Its OPP Policy there has to be two cameras and a senior OPP supervisor would know that. Not forgetting this is only a few minute of many hours of interviews. I'm very sure there lawyers spend much time scouring my websites, but again, the camera doesn't lie. I mean if it did that'd be a problem in court, right, its my statement and its recorded for accuracy.
He seems to really like his coffee, maybe its the perks... I'm not sure if he put his coffee between his legs if it'd have been any less offensive, I actually found the glasses more offensive from the sexual harassment point of view. Although both were offensive. They both amount to the same thing, I hope its;
don't forget your cup on the way out the door.
A witness statement is an individual’s account of the facts and events of relevant issues that occurred in a dispute. Although a witness can give their statement orally or in writing, it must eventually be put into a written document and signed by the witness in order for it to be used as proof or evidence in a case.
Depending on the situation, witness statements can be obtained by different people, such as police officers, lawyers, or private investigators. In order to obtain witness statements, several techniques may be used by private investigators, including interviews and interrogation.
When is a witness statement used?
The key purpose of taking a statement from a witness is to ensure that an accurate record of the recollection of an event exists to both support someone’s claim, and to use as evidence in court.
Here is the end of the first Interview from Feb 23, 2018