My name is Shelley and this is my dog Tundra, Tundra is my service dog and this is a website I created for reasons that few could understand. I'm sharing my experience of abuse, its a safety measure. Unless you've experienced these sort of abuses it'd be hard to understand.
If you've come here from Shelleyleach.com you'll have a better understanding of evolvement of my internet presence. Its funny because I still feel very silenced.
Here is Tundra today. She does have a service dog vest which she wears when in public, like in the shopping mall. Which is sort of what this is, but the shoppers here are a bit different they only take. Most people really don't care what happened to me, my service dog, what we lost, or how we were effected or for that matter other people who had similar experiences. However for the ones that do...its makes a difference. Gossip is good when the talk it cheap. People who gossip usually have nothing exciting in there own lives. How sad that is....So for that, I wish you something exciting. Its like the shopping mall, in a real shopping mall that would be some sort of exploitation of a vulnerable person.
Clan of the Cave e Mammoth Hunter
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do." Mark Twain
A quote that will make you feel smarter immediately “Anyone can find the switch after the lights are on.”
What is sexual harassment?
Uninvited, unwelcome verbal or physical behavior of a sexual nature, especially by a person in authority toward a subordinate. The term was coined and popularized by Lin Farley at Cornell University in 1975.
What is sexual assault?
Illegal sexual contact that usually involves force upon a person or is inflicted upon a person who is incapable of giving consent.
I thought Id take some time and dedicate some of this site to sharing some information pertaining to sexual harassment. There are lots of resources that cover sexual assault fewer for sexual harassment. I guess we all have to make a choice will my voice and decisions make a difference. I hope it makes a positive difference. Here's a quote I read someplace, no idea who wrote it but I liked it, " while your pretending to be somebody else, don't forget who you really are." Freedom of expression is protected as a "fundamental freedom" by Section 2 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Sometimes depending on the subject people are not going to like what you have to say.
To start sexual harassment constitutes an infringement of a person’s right to equality.
It is prohibited by section 15 of the Canadian Charter of rights and freedoms and by all provincial Human Rights codes to find sections that apply to you, look up your provincial Human Rights Code.
If you find something useful in here because you have been sexual harassed or victimized this site has served it's purpose. Its also about something know one ever said to me..... So for anyone else who has had similar experiences. You might be alone, but your not the only one. " Truth is the daughter of time "
From what I have been able to find from a legal perspective there are two main types of sexual harassment "quid pro quo" and “hostile climate”. Even though victims do not have to describe there experiences on the basis of these types. I think if you have been subjected to these types of sexual harassment its best to make yourself knowledgeable, these two types are dependent on the consequences for the victim.
Some types of sexual harassment can be a crime under the Criminal Code.
Sexual assault is an extreme form of sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is a form of discrimination.Sexual harassment is a reprehensible form of behaviour that infringes on the victim’s right to equality and dignity...this I know for fact.
Its not just the RCMP: Police Culture it Toxic, " I have spoken with officers across all levels of policing, and with few exceptions, the stories of their workplace culture have been similar, albeit varying in extremes. I have heard first- and second-hand accounts of off-duty rape and various levels of workplace sexual assault/harassment by peers or supervisors. I have heard of evidence tampering, coercion of witnesses, and intimidation tactics used during internal investigations of workplace violence, harassment, and discrimination. I have heard of verbal, physical, and psychological bullying, racism, homophobia, and sexism – all within the workplace. Operationally, many officers report corruption in internal investigations"
..... 9 years ago I never would have believe this to be true, today, I know it is.
They treat each other like this, how do they treat the people they swore to serve and protect.
What I lost is intangible, what they gained is another person instilled with a life time of mistrust and loss of confidence.
" Not sorry for what they did, only sorry they got caught " is relevant.
One thing that is useful to know for those who don't if you ever give a recorded statement to the police, any statement, it is your statement and you are entitled to that statement. Secondly, of course dependent on the experience, I would advise do not report them to the OIPRD , if you live in Ontario, with all due respect to the OIPRD, this is where it all goes down hill, if you think you have a human rights issue or legal case do not report to the OIPRD this advise is based on my experience. All the information, that is reports and such they take from you becomes employment related against them so you can't use it, with the exception of your "statement" if they recorded it, but they won't tell you this. I've experienced this, so I know, they know if it all goes wrong provisions within the police services act will protect them, so, again I advise don't report to the OIPRD, make a legal case. Now again I do know the majority of police officers are great people but its the ones who aren't.
The "Not so blind eye" a good preface to a suvivors hand guide/ book. I heard something that applies to a lot of situations but especially these types of incidence. " we are trying to fix the effect, and not the cause." I guess you could say this website is a sample of the effect, not the cause.
Here is something else interesting; The Canadian Victims Bill of Rights was Enacted on July 23rd, 2015, the Act creates clear Rights for Victims of crime, and requires said Act to be considered during each step of the criminal justice system. 10. "Every victim has the right to have reasonable and necessary measures taken by the appropriate authorities in the criminal justice system to protect the victim from intimidation and retaliation."...11." Every victim has the right to have their privacy considered by the appropriate authorities in the criminal justice system."
" In fact, sexual assault is the only violent crime in Canada that is not declining. Its impact goes far beyond survivors; dealing with the aftermath of sexual assault costs Canadians billions of dollars every year. "...the vast majority of sexual assault isn’t reported to police" and I don't have to guess why. if I hadn't been harassed by a police officer would you still be visiting this website, and is this website more interesting than my artwork. It could be to you, however, I prefer my artwork.
Learn about what abuse is... steps to justice.
ASSAULTED WOMEN'S HOTLINE 1 -866 -863 -0511
Talk4healing - The confidential help line staffed by Indigenous women can be reached at 1-855-554-4325
For the people who do support me, it doesn't go unnoticed, and I am very thankful for those who do.
Here is a example of a audio statement and this is a very short part of my statement, when you give a statement it is "your statement", because its your voice. Catch the drift, this was recorded on a tape recorder this is not a video statement, its not a written statement, those you have to sign or its not considered your statement. Like lets say a police officer writes your statement, well if you don't sign it it there statement, not yours.
Its very long too...almost 5 hours, I had been up since 3:15 am considering it started at 10:20 am and dates are very important too, lets say you complained about something that happened on July 19. That is the date of the complaint, it does not go beyond that day, if you report something in your statement that happened on August 2 that not part of the "complaint". Its confusing I know but when you make a OIPRD complaint dates are very specific. So the only thing they will investigate in this case would be the incident of July 19, not Aug 2. But in the course of that statement if you reported a crime, unrelated to a police officer its my understanding they have a duty to report. Here in lies is part of the problem because it takes so long to get these recording any hope for, lets say a judicial review will pass because there are time lines that in some respect are written in stone. So the other side I will call them holds these things until all hope is gone. From my experience closure is one of the most important aspects for victims and when you can't get closure it become a life long fight. Remember... December 6 is a National Day of Remembrance and Action on ending violence against women.
So its clear, I am not your pet!
Victims’ Bill of Rights, 1995
S.O. 1995, CHAPTER 6
5. Victims of sexual assault should, if the victim so requests, be interviewed during the investigation of the crime only by police officers and officials of the same gender as the victim.
(2) The following victims shall be presumed to have suffered emotional distress:
2. A victim of a sexual assault.
3. A victim of an attempted sexual assault. 1995, c. 6, s. 3 (2); 1999, c. 6, s. 65 (3); 2005, c. 5, s. 72 (3).