My name is Shelley and this is a website I created for reasons that few could understand.
This Image of Tundra is from September 13, 2016, a captivating image. Tundra is a service dog who assists me with my disabilities.
Those big sad puppy eyes, she was probably saying get me the hell out of here.
Oh yes, so I was I. We are lucky to be alive today.
I thought Id take some time and dedicate some of this site to sharing all I can find pertaining to sexual harassment. There are lots of resources that cover sexual assault fewer for sexual harassment. I guess we all have to make a choice will my voice and decisions make a difference. I hope it makes a positive difference. Here's a quote I read someplace, no idea who wrote it but I liked it, " while your pretending to be somebody else, don't forget who you really are." Freedom of expression is protected as a "fundamental freedom" by Section 2 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Sometimes depending on the subject people are not going to like what you have to say.
To start sexual harassment constitutes an infringement of a person’s right to equality.
It is prohibited by section 15 of the Canadian Charter of rights and freedoms and by all provincial Human Rights codes to find sections that apply to you, look up your provincial Human Rights Code. I was told a long time ago its better to know a little about a lot than a lot about a little. It serves well working in the arts.
If you find something useful in here because you have been sexual harassed or victimized this site has served it's purpose. Its also about something know one ever said to me, its not your fault, your not the only one and your not alone. So for anyone else who has had similar experiences. Its not your fault, however, I can say, you might be alone, but your not the only one.
Its seems natural to think you are not at fault if you are harassed , it seems natural to think if you're sexually assaulted you're not at fault, but it appears the system, a system made of people can't think of the simplest statement that lifts the weight off ones shoulders. " its not your fault", " I'm sorry this happen to you" means nothing if you are made to feel like its your fault. You can know its not your fault but its important to hear. Its not you fault.
From what I have been able to find from a legal perspective there are two main types of sexual harassment "quid pro quo" and “hostile climate”. Even though victims do not have to describe there experiences on the basis of these types. I think if you have been subjected to these types of sexual harassment its best to make yourself knowledgeable, these two types are dependent on the consequences for the victim.
Some types of sexual harassment can be a crime under the Criminal Code. Sexual assault is an extreme form of sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is a form of discrimination.Sexual harassment is a reprehensible form of behaviour that infringes on the victim’s right to equality and dignity...this I know for fact.
Its not just the RCMP: Police Culture it Toxic, " I have spoken with officers across all levels of policing, and with few exceptions, the stories of their workplace culture have been similar, albeit varying in extremes. I have heard first- and second-hand accounts of off-duty rape and various levels of workplace sexual assault/harassment by peers or supervisors. I have heard of evidence tampering, coercion of witnesses, and intimidation tactics used during internal investigations of workplace violence, harassment, and discrimination. I have heard of verbal, physical, and psychological bullying, racism, homophobia, and sexism – all within the workplace. Operationally, many officers report corruption in internal investigations" ..... 9 years ago I never would have believe this to be true, today, I know it is. if they treat each other like this how do they treat the people they swore to serve and protect. Once you've been treated so horribly how can you ever have confidence or trust again. Its like the abuser, the first time they beat you or berate you until you think you might not live or feel so degraded you start to believe everything they say about you, then next time all they have to do is make a gesture and you submit. What I lost is intangible, what they gained is another person instilled with a life time of mistrust and loss of confidence. The saying, not sorry for what they did only sorry they got caught is relevant.
Its nice to think someone could be so confident in themselves this would never happen to them, I hope it doesn't. Why does it make it worse when it was a police officer or representative of a police service, because when someone is hurting you or you are in trouble and you think its criminal or life threatening you call the police, in this situation not only did they not help, they perpetuated it. So next time if some hurting you or someone else are you going to call, who do you become more upset by, the person you called the police about or who didn't help when you called for help. The bystander who did nothing who is now the secondary abuser. Theoretically its typical abuse. It doesn't matter what you know, its what you do about it and how you do it. Understanding proportionately the well behaved adults who treat people with courtesy and respect out weigh the narcissistic abusers, however it seems the narcissistic abusers have more power. What I fail to understand is why people give it to them. Abusers hate when someone walks away from them, they hate when they don't have control. Before you try to understand the mindset of the abused take some time and understand the abusers and how hard they worked to make someones life miserable. That's why the call it a cycle. The wheels don't stop until someone stops them from turning.
Sad is not even a word to begin to describe the letdown. It's age old, no, it will ever happen to me, its always someone else, until its you. Its not my problem, its every bodies problem. From my experience, portions of the interviews below are only a small sample of what's above. I'm sure some police officers have read this, for you, how many of your work colleagues aren't with you anymore becasue they had similar experience, how many now live lives probably not to unlike I do, for those that lived. But I couldn't be 100 % certain. I had this magazine I was reading one time when I was sitting in a office in 2016 called the Pony Express, a few weeks later my truck was stole and when my truck was recovered it was on the passenger side of my vehicle with a case of water ( always kept water for the dog and myself you know those hot summer days and cold winter nights, don't want to be without water sitting in a parking lot). Anyway its a police magazine, I was just looking at it to pass the time, remembering I'm a artist . Back some years ago I submitted a proposal to the RCMP for a painting project as some of the area I wanted to go were remote and dangerous for a female to go alone, it never amounted to anything, I had first sent the proposal for the Canadian Forces artist program. I have a disability that makes it very hard for me to write so my dad had painstakingly helped me write the proposal. I had wanted to do something with the Canadian Rangers, so I took the same proposal modified it and sent it to the RCMP with my qualifications, all these years later, for those who don't totally get it collecting reference material then creating art was my work place, and I derived income from that work much like you might at your job. My workplace was not defined by walls that's the only difference you can find what you might be good at doing in here, if you do not know what it is. I saw this post one time on the RCMP Facebook page, it said something to the effect of the RCMP are committed to ending violence against women, so now all these years later, my career destroyed, all my art stolen, I was injured to the point I now have permanent disabilities and I never left Ontario or Quebec and never saw anything worth putting on canvas. I guess you could say, this is the picture I painted in some respects and I call it the "Not so blind eye" Not so flattering. I heard something that applies to a lot of situations but especially these types of incidence. " we are trying to fix the effect, and not the cause." I guess you could say this website is a sample of the effect, not the cause.
Here is something else interesting; The Canadian Victims Bill of Rights was Enacted on July 23rd, 2015, the Act creates clear Rights for Victims of crime, and requires said Act to be considered during each step of the criminal justice system. ... their right to file a complaint for an infringement or denial of any of their Rights under this Act.
Not everyone would get the analogy but its a worthy comparison. I always enjoyed creative writing and I'm, not sure if I fully capture the feeling. I have been very flattered by all the traffic to this website, thank you to the local municipal government for visiting this site and the local police. I guess you could say, if I had not been harassed by a police officer would you still be visiting this website, and is this website more interesting than my artwork.
Here are some other interesting articles
"What you need to know about women's rights in Canada"- By Andrea Karr
" Your Guide to handling workplace sexual harassment" - By Andrea Karr
Victims’ Bill of Rights, 1995
S.O. 1995, CHAPTER 6
5. Victims of sexual assault should, if the victim so requests, be interviewed during the investigation of the crime only by police officers and officials of the same gender as the victim.
(2) The following victims shall be presumed to have suffered emotional distress:
2. A victim of a sexual assault.
3. A victim of an attempted sexual assault. 1995, c. 6, s. 3 (2); 1999, c. 6, s. 65 (3); 2005, c. 5, s. 72 (3).
June 12, 2018
June 13, 2018
Here are some snippets of the second report I gave to Renfrew County Ontario, Ontario Provincial Police officers. "The OPP is the largest deployed police force in Ontario and the second-largest in Canada." It is responsible for providing policing services throughout the province in areas lacking local police forces. would you want to be this person. Do you think you would treat you differently. If what you see you think is bad, what about what you didn't see. I believe section 8 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms covers this.
June 13, 2018
The papers on the side of the table belong to me, I was told my property was safe. Why would he take that letter? I guess you'd have to know what it said. To make this clear this is a OPP police officer during a police interview stealing my paperwork and touching my property without consent. The degrading treatment I was subjected to during this interview far outweighs anything I could ever comprehend. Long before these reports I knew what violence against women was, the bigger problem is these videos and recordings personify what subtle abuse and violence against women is.
Its a breach of trust at the minimum, I'm sure it goes far beyond that. An additional factor influencing the experiences of women with disabilities is the way their voices are devalued and desexualized (Curry et al., 2009; Odette, 2012; Plummer & Findley, 2012).
To really steal someones property during a on camera interview, are these the investigators you want in your home after someone broke in? Good question. This is a real police interview when I was making a report about serious allegations. You can't hide this stuff and ignorance to it would be as bad as what happened. I see this as a remedial step to the prevention similar occurrences and misinformation.
This is only one OPP Detective who has destroyed any ability I will ever have to trust any police service, he disgustingly tarnished the OPP reputation and the police officers who actually care. It would go against my moral values not to call them out as I have to wonder in all the years of policing how many innocent lives have been destroyed. When change comes to late. Its too late. Although I have the whole video I have only to this point published segments. Not forgetting the photos he took with his phone of text messages on my phone after he intimidated me.
This is why I have a Human Rights claim against the newly named Ontario Ministry of the Solicitor General for sexual harassment. ( they are the employer of the OPP and we the tax payers pay there salary.) Police Officers have a position of authority and we have no choice but to place trust. Abusing a position of Trust. I truthfully can't articulate the disgust this interview made me feel. I guess that's what they wanted or it was the objective to degrade a person until you feel as disgusting as they think.
( to quote him "that mental abuse kind of stuff" , he was very good at it).
Analysis of Sexual Harassment in Housing, "Landlords used their institutional authority in the housing context and racialized gender stereotypes to exploit tenants'economic vulnerabilities." "The key element here is the need to perform masculinity"...Human testing not permitted.
Sexual Assault isn't about the way someone looks, and its not about sex its about power and control over a person.
I have thought of this several times, what is wrong with that camera, you know when your at the store and when you walk out there is a height chart, in case someone steals something. Put it this way, I'd get away. It sort of reminded me of a photo I gave to the Surete du Quebec as part of there investigation but this is not in Quebec and that is not the SQ and what I was reporting happened in Ontario not Quebec and I asked the SQ if there ever shared information with the OPP in a inter provincial investigation and they said no and I asked the OPP if they ever got any information from the SQ and they said no, so who is not telling the truth.
He seems to really like his coffee, I'm not sure if he put his coffee between his legs if it'd have been any less offensive, I actually found the glasses more offensive from the sexual harassment point of view. Although both were offensive. They both amount to the same thing, I hope its don't forget your cup on the way out the door.
Here is the end of the first Interview from Feb 23, 2018