My name is Shelley and this is my dog Tundra, Tundra is my service dog and this is a website I created for reasons that few could understand. I'm sharing my experience of abuse, its a safety measure. After abuse you go through safety planning, here's the truth, you can take all the measures you want but if someone is going to hurt you they will do it anyway. Another thing is online safety, you know, don't use your real name, cover your tracks, but in some cases exactly the opposite is required and this is one of those cases. I'm not here becasue I want to be, I'm here because I have to be.
Its the only thing I have " in case" something happens to me because of someone else. That is the truth, that is not a choice, its called survival.
Unless you've experienced these sort of abuses it'd be hard to understand.
If you've come here from Shelleyleach.com you'll have a better understanding of evolvement of my internet presence. Its funny because I still feel very silenced.
Here is Tundra today. She does have a service dog vest which she wears when in public, like in the shopping mall. Which is sort of what this is, but the shoppers here are a bit different they only take. Most people really don't care what happened to me, my service dog, what we lost, or how we were effected or for that matter other people who had similar experiences. However for the ones that do...its makes a difference. Gossip is good when the talk it cheap. People who gossip usually have nothing exciting in there own lives. How sad that is....So for that, I wish you something exciting. Its like the shopping mall, in a real shopping mall that would be some sort of exploitation of a vulnerable person. This is not gossip.
Clan of the Cave e Mammoth Hunter
What is sexual harassment?
Uninvited, unwelcome verbal or physical behavior of a sexual nature, especially by a person in authority toward a subordinate. The term was coined and popularized by Lin Farley at Cornell University in 1975.
What is sexual assault?
Illegal sexual contact that usually involves force upon a person or is inflicted upon a person who is incapable of giving consent.
I thought Id take some time and dedicate some of this site to sharing some information pertaining to sexual harassment. There are lots of resources that cover sexual assault fewer for sexual harassment. I guess we all have to make a choice will my voice and decisions make a difference. I hope it makes a positive difference. Here's a quote I read someplace, no idea who wrote it but I liked it, " while your pretending to be somebody else, don't forget who you really are." Freedom of expression is protected as a "fundamental freedom" by Section 2 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Sometimes depending on the subject people are not going to like what you have to say.
To start sexual harassment constitutes an infringement of a person’s right to equality.
It is prohibited by section 15 of the Canadian Charter of rights and freedoms and by all provincial Human Rights codes to find sections that apply to you, look up your provincial Human Rights Code.
If you find something useful in here because you have been sexual harassed or victimized this site has served it's purpose. Its also about something know one ever said to me..... So for anyone else who has had similar experiences. You might be alone, but your not the only one. " Truth is the daughter of time "
From what I have been able to find from a legal perspective there are two main types of sexual harassment "quid pro quo" and “hostile climate”. Even though victims do not have to describe there experiences on the basis of these types. I think if you have been subjected to these types of sexual harassment its best to make yourself knowledgeable, these two types are dependent on the consequences for the victim.
Some types of sexual harassment can be a crime under the Criminal Code.
Sexual assault is an extreme form of sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is a form of discrimination.Sexual harassment is a reprehensible form of behaviour that infringes on the victim’s right to equality and dignity...this I know for fact.
Its not just the RCMP: Police Culture it Toxic, " I have spoken with officers across all levels of policing, and with few exceptions, the stories of their workplace culture have been similar, albeit varying in extremes. I have heard first- and second-hand accounts of off-duty rape and various levels of workplace sexual assault/harassment by peers or supervisors. I have heard of evidence tampering, coercion of witnesses, and intimidation tactics used during internal investigations of workplace violence, harassment, and discrimination. I have heard of verbal, physical, and psychological bullying, racism, homophobia, and sexism – all within the workplace. Operationally, many officers report corruption in internal investigations"
..... 9 years ago I never would have believe this to be true, today, I know it is.
They treat each other like this, how do they treat the people they swore to serve and protect.
What I lost is intangible, what they gained is another person instilled with a life time of mistrust and loss of confidence.
" Not sorry for what they did, only sorry they got caught " is relevant.
One thing that is useful to know for those who don't if you ever give a recorded statement to the police, any statement, it is your statement and you are entitled to that statement. I do know the majority of police officers are great people but its the ones who aren't, request any and all statements you gave to the police through your Information and Privacy office, you could be surprised. Remember it's your statement. Something else, sometimes you could make a report to the police when you fear for your safety or you think a crime has been committed, then you come to find out they called it " Police Information" well its not "Police " Information its my information or its your information and they can't use it for what ever the hell they feel like, unless you give them consent this is what I would think, and I have never given them consent. I have also seen report that say "Police discretion" so I looked up the meaning, "the freedom to decide what should be done in a particular situation" so lets say it was sexual assault,they can choose to do something or not do something. I guess it depends who assaulted you. Did you have a choice when you were assaulted , I know I didn't.
I heard something that applies to a lot of situations but especially these types of incidence. " we are trying to fix the effect, and not the cause." I guess you could say this website is a sample of the effect, not the cause.
Here is something else interesting; The Canadian Victims Bill of Rights was Enacted on July 23rd, 2015, the Act creates clear Rights for Victims of crime, and requires said Act to be considered during each step of the criminal justice system. 10. "Every victim has the right to have reasonable and necessary measures taken by the appropriate authorities in the criminal justice system to protect the victim from intimidation and retaliation.
11." Every victim has the right to have their privacy considered by the appropriate authorities in the criminal justice system." To this point I do not find this alarming as a example.
" In fact, sexual assault is the only violent crime in Canada that is not declining. Its impact goes far beyond survivors; dealing with the aftermath of sexual assault costs Canadians billions of dollars every year. "...the vast majority of sexual assault isn’t reported to police" and I don't have to guess why. if I hadn't been harassed by a police officer would you still be visiting this website, and is this website more interesting than my artwork.
It could be to you, however, I prefer my artwork. https://globalnews.ca/tag/sexual-harassment/
Learn about what abuse is... steps to justice.
For the people who do support me, it doesn't go unnoticed, and I am very thankful for those who do.
Here is a example of a audio statement and this is a very short part of my statement, when you give a statement it is "your statement". Catch the drift, this was recorded on a tape recorder this is not a video statement, its not a written statement, those you have to sign or its not considered your statement. Like lets say a police officer writes your statement, well if you don't sign it who's statement is it?
Its very long too...almost 5 hours, I had been up since 3:15 am considering it started at 10:20 am and dates are very important too, lets say you complained about something that happened on July 19. That is the date of the complaint, it does not go beyond that day, if you report something in your statement that happened on August 2 that not part of the "complaint". Its confusing I know but when you make a OIPRD complaint dates are very specific. So the only thing they will investigate in this case would be the incident of July 19, not Aug 2. But in the course of that statement if you reported a crime, unrelated to a police officer its my understanding they have a duty to report. You can't cover up a lie with a lie, you also can't keep putting bandages on top of bandages, the wound doesn't heal.
From my experience closure is one of the most important aspects for victims, when you can't get closure it become a life long fight.
PC O'Dacre, I will never forgive you. I hope you enjoy your career as a policeman, give my best to all you policewoman friends. ...exactly! In reality you don't sound like a police officer you sound like a policeman brought in to gather information who would make a very bad lawyer. You sound like a policeman trying to find a way out of criminal negligence, which could, as it shapes and evolves be viewed as obstruction of justice either way its something within the Offences Against the Administration of Law and Justice. But I'm not a lawyer, nor am I a policewoman. I'm just making a uneducated guess and that's not a crime, but, what happened was. This is what I think, I think it was criminal negligence and I think you all knew that and I think you intentionally wasted time and failed to investigate because then I'd have to sue you for civil negligence and you all know that takes a long time, it takes money I don't have and that in its self unjust and I think its probably a crime that's what my evidence suggests. When you stopped caring about my life and only started to cared about the civil liability is when you lost me, this is what you are supposed to do ;
- prevent crime.
- enforce our laws.
- help victims.
- keep public order.
- respond to emergencies
- Your welcome to tell me I'm wrong at any time.
You all know that is not a towing authorization and that is not my truck. It took me almost 3 years to get these police officers notes. Now I have only ever played Nancy drew detective games as a kid but putting all kidding aside, I'd be looking for a hand writing expert. There's a point ->
Here's a quote from the police services act
Administration and Finances Liability
63 (1) The Crown in right of Ontario is liable for the acts or omissions of members of the Ontario Provincial Police committed in the course of their employment.
another thought, I didn't get these reports until 2018, that means although I thought they were liable, they admitted liability it doesn't say I, it say we're, this also means every report after that date they knew they were liable.
Maybe you can start to see the problems, the report is manipulated, its not accurate according to the notes. Why would anyone do that, intentionally. There is no mention of a complaint in his notes. Why would a officer put that in a report when it was not accurate, I guess it all depends on who is reading the report and who entered the report.
Criminal code of Canada
Theft - not more than 10 years
Mischief - not exceeding ten years
271 Everyone who commits a sexual assault is guilty of
(a) an indictable offence and is liable to imprisonment for a term of not more than 10 years or, if the complainant is under the age of 16 years, to imprisonment for a term of not more than 14 years and to a minimum punishment of imprisonment for a term of one year; or
(b) an offence punishable on summary conviction and is liable to imprisonment for a term of not more than 18 months or, if the complainant is under the age of 16 years, to imprisonment for a term of not more than two years less a day and to a minimum punishment of imprisonment for a term of six months.
an indictable offence and is liable to imprisonment for a term not exceeding two years, or of an offence punishable on summary conviction,
where the value of the subject-matter of the offence does not exceed five thousand dollars
When a person is prosecuted on indictment and convicted of one or more offences referred to in subsection (1), the court that imposes the sentence shall impose a minimum punishment of imprisonment for a term of two years if the total value of the subject-matter of the offences exceeds one million dollars.
( how much are you worth)
Every person who contravenes this section is guilty of an indictable offence and is liable to imprisonment for a term not exceeding ten years; or an offence punishable on summary conviction.
This video is about domestic abuse, this situation is not domestic abuse but its all that can be used to explain, it was the worst mental manipulation and brainwashing I have ever experienced, the people that did this to me were strangers who took control of my life and they still have it becasue it was given to them . It's a million times worse that physical abuse. My broken foot will heal, but the memory of it won't.
Did you ever tell the RCMP that less than a week after she called you on July 28, 2016 I had been sexually assaulted and attempts were made to solicit me into prostitution, or was this way I was dealt with . Did you tell her you had a letter saying I was to be given immediate access to my home and property - dated July 13, 2016, did you tell her what really happened, did you tell her how much you made me suffer and this was the way you dealt with me, and that was only 2016. It gets worse before it gets better. Forgive me for saying this but you know the old saying, "if it smells like shit, it probably is shit"
Did you hear that, " it's not the first time but its not serial. One time was one too many so, obviously he did it to other women. Then to invalidate not only me but every victim of rape by saying I wouldn't give him that much credit. Are you for real, to say that to a victim of rape and sexual assault. How much credit did you give him?
Remember... comments for audio recording below...Additionally, I do not feel validated. I feel abused, again. Maybe you could find that evidence in a garbage can with the coffee mugs and drinking glasses, that were left in my storage unit. Right. The OPP will never be able to convince me they cared about anything that happen to me, they didn't change. Its about liability and the OPP twitter page makes that quite clear. Going back to the letter of June 13, 2018, no sorry, July 13, 2016.
Here's what I know about consent, "This idea is that if you drink, you’re putting yourself at risk of sexual assault. These beliefs are problematic,Instead of telling people not to drink because it will put them at risk for sexual assault, we need to tell perpetrators not to commit sexual assault."
First, when it comes to consent, the law is very clear that:
- You can only consent for yourself.
- You actually have to be able to give consent. That means you have to be awake, conscious, and sober enough to make a clear decision.
- People in positions of trust, power or authority can’t abuse their position to get sexual activity.
- If you imply no through your words or behaviours that’s just as good as saying “NO”.
- You have the right to change your mind and stop anytime for any reason during sexual activity.
Remember... their actions did not cause them undue hardship.
"It is every woman’s fundamental right to live in safety and security in her home and community – free from the threat of violence."
I'm just providing the links these are some twitter pages, I don't tweet myself. never did. I switch them now and then just to keep it fresh and people on their toes. Sort of like Forest Gump, "Life's like a box a chocolates you never know what your gonna get!" Being a abused woman I know how hard it can be to find good legal help, you know because they strip you of all you resources. That's part of the abuse.
I thought it would be helpful to remind everyone of the context... we all have very short attention spans. But I won't forget.
This one too
are you for real, do you hear and see yourselves, this isn't sports. This is the reason why these things happen, what girl will the put in your house? Will she live? From someone who knows the difference.
Have you ever noticed most of the whistleblowers (coining the phrase) are predominantly women. Why do you think that is, look at what they had to go through and look at what they lost, they did it for you and me, not themselves. It’s a dirty business without doubt.
Victims’ Bill of Rights, 1995
S.O. 1995, CHAPTER 6
5. Victims of sexual assault should, if the victim so requests, be interviewed during the investigation of the crime only by police officers and officials of the same gender as the victim.
(2) The following victims shall be presumed to have suffered emotional distress:
2. A victim of a sexual assault.
3. A victim of an attempted sexual assault. 1995, c. 6, s. 3 (2); 1999, c. 6, s. 65 (3); 2005, c. 5, s. 72 (3).
Do you think they'd be proud? This is my grandfather, dad and grandmother. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.